What you can’t say owns you. What you hide controls you

  • Simran Kaur


Suppressed feelings and emotions (especially negative ones) is the major cause of stress and interpersonal conflict. In the workplace, and in any other situation where human interaction takes place, it is healthy to express one’s   feelings especially when they are negative. Unexpressed negative emotions will eventually see an outlet. When they surface, they may cause damages to the person concerned or the entire human collectivity in terms of interpersonal relations.

There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you. The more you hide your feelings, the more they show. The more you deny your feelings, the more they grow. As you try to explain why you are feeling negative emotion, you are adding power to it. It is advisable to release the negative emotion, the negative feeling, and the negative attraction by taking your attention from it.

To release negative emotions; First, don’t judge yourself for having them; acknowledge that it is natural to experience them. Second, understand that to continue to hold onto them is a choice. Please note that a negative mind will never give you a positive life. Negative emotion is your indicator of resistance while positive emotion is your indicator of allowance. Interestingly, both are on the same meter.

It is your responsibility to make sure that positive emotion constitute the dominating influence of your mind. The five major positive emotions are the emotion of desire, faith, love, enthusiasm and hope.

Positivity opens us. The first core truth about positive emotions is that they open our hearts and our minds, making us more receptive and more creative.

Organizations that encourage expression of opinions through “suggestion box” or “open door” policy system make it possible for employees to reveal their feelings. The benefits to organization for this policy are healthy staff, good interpersonal relationship, and less work-related accident.  Expression of feelings is a health pill-family doctor and employers should recommend it to everyone.


We cannot totally escape from negative emotions, but we can choose to suppress them by maximizing our positive emotions

  • T. P. Chia

(1) Comment

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